The Mirror of the Heart

A workshop for couples to reawaken sexual passion and intimacy. There is a profound intimacy in revealing ourselves and our innermost sexual dreams, desires and needs within the safe space of an ongoing committed relationship. Although it may be uncomfortable, embarrassing or challenging, the gifts that come with this courage to tread the path of truth bring back, finally, the deep intimate connection that is the heartfelt longing of every person. Most of us have grown up in this culture to find parts of our inner lives, dreams and desires to be unacceptable. As we grow up and come into relationship we learn to limit and hide parts of ourselves. What we show to our beloved is often only that which we believe is acceptable. When we step beyond this conditioning, we can give ourselves the freedom to want what we want. Wherever our wanting starts, it will lead us to what is truly right for us, to our heart's desire and our soul's longing. It can ignite the passion that brings aliveness and fulfillment so that you can live within a long-term relationship that is satisfying, sexually rich and allows each of you the space to grow.

Anything that we are not prepared to feel, experience and share becomes a block to our intimacy.

Over time and with familiarity, we can settle into habits and patterns of relating with each other in which our passion and intimacy stagnate. The safe and habitual has not led to satisfaction. Our willingness to dare to show up and BE who we really are is the only way we can truly meet our partner. To step beyond safe territory and enter the unknown, is a powerful step towards deeply fulfilling intimacy. In this process we naturally find a deeper acceptance and intimacy with ourselves and learn that we don't depend on external circumstances for our own happiness.

To be truly with another we must first come home to ourselves.

Within a relationship we have to do this again and again and again even when we are afraid to rock the boat. As we reveal ourselves we naturally connect with our dreams and begin to feel again the vividness of our own aliveness.

In this process of stepping together into the unknown, we can learn to live both true to ourselves and to look after our relationship. Healing happens because we rise above our fear of failing, our fear of abandonment, piece by piece we let go of our suffering and recognize that only our fear creates distance and heaviness around our heart.

The workshop invites and entices you to let yourself be human, fallible, passionate and vulnerable so that loving relationship is possible. You can learn how to grow playfully out of whatever fears, guilt, shame and restrictive beliefs spoil the pleasures of sexual loving for you.

Throughout the weekend we will focus on :

  • sharing our feelings simply and honestly

  • listening and being present with an open heart

  • becoming aware of the ways we shut down

  • sharing our needs, wants and desires

  • This workshop includes touch, guided processes and ritual, meditation, dance and open sharing circles. It will provide a safe and yet powerful environment in which you can learn to trust your own natural energies and find a freedom and passion to take back into your daily life.
    The workshop is for couples who want a passionate and honest relationship, whether they have been together for decades or have just started their journey together.

    "the way you make love is the way God will be with you" Rumi